Posts by Kathryn Hogan

Guest Post: Texting Your Way Into Her Heart – Advice for Men

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Claudia Cox, an expert on romance in the digital age, is sharing her wisdom with us today. This Guest Post offers her personal preferences and professional insights into the medium of text messaging as a messenger of modern romance… with comments from Kathryn! It’s a Valentine’s Day Extravaganza!   Texting a woman shouldn’t feel like […]

Averting a Chernobyl of the Heart — Sassy Advice for When You Don’t Like Them Back

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Your Wholistic Guide to Understanding Unrequitted Love… and Avoiding Disaster When It Strikes We’ve all been too friendly, too flirty, or too fast with someone who cared more for us than we did for them. Whether it’s being kind out of sympathy for someone having a rough time, or starting a relationship with no intention […]

Overcoming the Fear of Following your Purpose

Overcoming the Fear of Following your Purpose

Our culture tells us that following our hearts is a dangerous waste of time and energy. That we have to earn our happiness, by doing things we don’t really want to do, by suffering. What if that’s wrong? Destiny. Mission. Purpose. Karma.   Many different names for that certain solid something; that thing that drives […]

If You Think Dating’s a Game, You’ve Already Lost

If You Think Dating’s a Game, You’ve Already Lost

When we see potential mates as opponents, targets and obstacles instead of beautiful people worthy of our love and trust, everyone loses. There are some people who view dating as a game. We all know they’re out there. You may even be one of them. And that’s fine. You do you. If that’s the kind […]

Meditation: What’s In It For Me? A Wholistic Guide to Meditation and its Incredible Benefits

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The single most powerful tool for improving yourself, your life and the world, meditation is more than a bad ass daily practice. It’s fundamental to health and happiness. Here’s how. Sitting still. Breathing deeply. Doing nothing. Weird mantras. Unfortunately, meditation is often portrayed as a seriously boring pastime that appeals mostly to foreigners and weirdos. […]

Engagement Cancelled! The 6 Things You Need To Know About Men to Avoid Heartbreak

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My first engagement ended in heartbreak, but it helped me to discover six keys truths about long-term relationship success with men. I’m sharing them here so you can avoid my fate. — When I was 21, I proposed actual marriage to an actual human man, a guy I had been dating for a year and […]

The Modern Macho Part 2: Healthy Masculine Expression, Loveable Men

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Most portrayals of men in our popular culture don’t attempt to present men as ‘loveable’. But Loving the men around us, and encouraging them to love themselves, is an important part of redefining masculinity as healthy and healing. In Part 1, I talked about the radical idea that manhood is something to be genuinely proud […]

The Modern Macho—Part 1: On Men, Masculinity, and Retaking the Word

Manhood is Men. However and Whoever they are.

If there’s one word every little boy knows, and feels deep in his bones, it’s ‘hero.’ But how can today’s modern men be the heroes of their own lives? What does Macho mean? It means pride in manhood. It means being happy about being a man. It can mean confidence, power, a dynamic energy that […]

Why You Can’t Find an Awesome, Sexy Woman to Love—Advice for Men

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Pursuing a limited ‘Type’ of woman is sabotaging your chance at real love. When you’re looking for a woman, try looking with your whole self. Here’s how! Let’s be honest. When we look for a mate, we look for someone hot. Sexy. Irresistible. If you’re having trouble finding a woman with whom to experience romance, […]

What It Means to Hold Space for a Woman—Advice for Men

Get it?! SPACE?!?! Hilarious AND relevant.

Be authentic. Hold space. Be present. These nebulous phrases may sound floofy, but they describe what the women you love really need. Here is the simple, concrete guide to providing it. “I just need you to hold space for me.” This phrase may strike fear into even the most stoic male heart. “You can’t hold […]